As a partner of someone who suffers with PTSD and panic attacks this cartoon really resonated with me. Although I may not physically build a nest, I have built a relationship with my partner that supports him for who he is and not who I want him to be.
Am I always supportive? No. Am I always understanding? No. But when he is experiencing the fear and panic, we try to fight it together. When he perceives that someone, organisation, or situation is threatening him I use language like “We will fight this together, that is what we do”.
Can I encourage you if you are a partner of some one who experiences these events, when ever they are going through it, yes, try to talk them down, but if they can’t, be there for them and let them know they are not alone in this period.
There is plenty of time for talking about how to fix it after the event. After all we may never truly know what they feel or think inside, so the only support we can give is understanding and love.